Hopes and dreams are great. Fictious events are not.
CONSEQUENCES TO NEVER OCCUR
I wonder how many of you are worried. Worry is a thing. I understand staying up about a possibility. There are so many possibilities. Have you ever thought your possibility might not be your probability?
I mean it in context of odds.
There are many paths one can take climbing a tree. There are many branches which reach out to the sky. It is difficult to know which one a person will choose when climbing their tree of life. I prefer to think a person will find their path. Unless, that person fears heights. I think to some extent we all are afraid of heights.
What heights? I am talking about the heights in your imagination. Your imagination can charge a high price to your real self. This is the fare you accept despite the fact a real-life vendor granted you a free pass.
Let’s delve into this dichotomy. A contrast between two vastly different scenarios.
THE MIND WANTS TO AVOID BAD
Most people pray to avoid bad situations versus having the strength to go through them. Ironically, most good forms of character are forged in the areas of hardship, mistreatment and unfair accusations.
How can you know if someone is loyal if they never experienced consequences for remaining loyal?
How do you know if a person perseveres during hard times if they are not forced to fail at an onset?
How will you know if a person will love you if loving you didn’t come with a very steep price?
The answer is you cannot know. A circumstantial relationship without any form of hardship is an uncertain ending to a story yet told. It is often in these circumstances our minds create fabrications. Our minds seek to know which is yet to be revealed.
Most operate off fear. Few operate off confidence.
Often, I find this in my daughter. She is filled with questions of “What if?”. Most of these questions are posed from imagination. No ques. No evidence. No leads. Simply her desires to worry about imaginary events without any real evidence of her thoughts.
My response to her is always the same, “Baby it sounds like you’re living in your imagination instead of reality. What have you experienced to prove your thoughts are substantiated?”
I notice many adults keep this juvenile mind.
ALLEGATIONS OF FEAR NOT CONFIDENCE
I have been accused of adultery with no evidence of any specific woman. I have been accused of misleading people with no witness testimony. I was told I stole money when no victim ever complained I stole anything. I have been alleged that I misappropriated money despite subpoena bank records proving it went to another individual who gave none back.
In all instances the reality was the complete opposite.
A circumstantial relationship without any form of hardship is an uncertain ending to a story yet told.
In most cases I had evidence proving the exact opposite. Despite these truths, the mind of my allegers went elsewhere. Many were full of fear of a possibility. So, they treated me as such. Sometimes ego drove their actions.
Very few have ever asked the question to my allegers,
“Can you provide me evidence that he did what you claim?”
Most ran away from a loud sound of allegation thinking it was a gun shot, when in fact it was just a blow back from a broken muffler taking them down a road of deception.
I wonder is it possible most have yet to leave the juvenile mind of a child?
I wonder do people prefer a mind which values suspicion over certitude?
THE POINT OF OUR ASSUMPTIONS
It turns out the mind has a real reason for this behavior. It comes from a time where we were always at risk of death. Our ancestors lived in a very perilous environment. Whether it was being killed through a mosquito born illness, a savage lion attack or an end pass which crumbled and sent them to their death.
Our world was a very dangerous place for most of human history. This came from the environment in which our ancestors lived. The hunter gather life was spent roaming new territory, encountering random events, and surprising unsuspecting animals which would gore them to death if they weren’t careful.
Our ancestors did this all at risk of disease, starvation and other tribal warfare.
No wonder they were consumed with anticipation of what was to come. It meant life or death. As a result, the feeling of suspicion is meant to be applied in dangerous environments where life and death are real possibilities. This same innate ability which kept our species alive is still with us. A book called “Mean Genes” by Terry Burnham Ph.d. and Jay Phelean Ph.d details the purpose of our impulse incredibly well (2).
Most operate off fear. Few operate off confidence.
Unfortunately, the environment we tend to apply our instinct of suspicion to is the comfortable A/C office where we want to search for some manufactured danger (think law suits without basis), the car which shields us from the elements (to anticipate some road rage incident) or the social media platform which protects us from human confrontation (by taking down our couple pictures impulsively when we have a fight).
As you can see, the very ability which kept us alive is dragging our lives down by improper environmental application. An ability which was so reliable is now unreliable due to the fact our environment is completely different than it once was.
The ability is very necessary…when we go camping or walk down a dark alley at night.
Not so much when we are hanging out in our room trying to make sense of what our spouse is doing when they are not home yet.
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR THOUGHTS
Suspicion can delude you into false thoughts. It often will. It is a useful tool when the tool is used in its proper setting.
Suspicion has no place in a room where life and death are not the weight which is put on your scale.
We need to choose conviction. Conviction requires you to convince yourself what you’re being told is true. We must let go of believing fabrications. The idea someone can say anything to you, where you instinctively believe it, means you are allowing others to manipulate you.
Do not allow yourself to be manipulated.
It does not matter the position or authority. All statements must be analyzed to decide if they are true or not. It does not mean a person making an allegation is a bad or deceptive person. All it means is the person might be wrong. There is nothing bad about being wrong. I am wrong often. We all are. Being wrong is the process of self-discovery, growth and wisdom.
Suspicion can delude you into false thoughts.
Ego prevents us from accepting flaws, mistakes or admitting imperfections. I am imperfect. So are we all. It does not mean there is bad intention. Intentions matter. Intentions must be proven. Do not allow someone to frame events in a manner whereby you are deceived. The worst consequence I can imagine is a self-imposed consequence. For imagine you concluded a person was a thief only to realize they were actually the biggest contributor to charity.
You can choose to choose to live in the reality at any point. Unfortunately, not all my secrets will be discovered in this free article. You must pick up a copy of my international best-selling book “I Made It Then I Didn’t” or order “Many Paths To Profit” for that.
The concept I teach in this article is free. My personal stories are not. Don’t let pennies get in the way of showing you something much more valuable than a dollar. There’s no such thing as a free lunch. Remember today is happening in real life. Don’t let an imagination preoccupy you to the point where you’re somewhere else instead of living today.
To Your Knowledge Success!
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Sources
1) The life of Christopher Knight Lopez a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t” & Co-Author of “Many Paths To Profit” with the original shark from Shark Tank Kevin Harrington.
2) “Mean Genes” From Sex To Money To Food Taming Our Primal Instincts. Published by the Penguin Group. Burnham, Terry & Phelan Jay. ISBN 0 14 20.0007 8(2000)
3) Psychology. Cognitive Psychology. “Framing Effect in Psychology”. Perea, Ayesh. September 7, 2023. Reviewed by Saul McLeod, PhD & Olivia Guy-Evans, MSc.
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Certain elements in this story may have been fictionalized to illustrate a creative story. This is a form of artistic expression not narration of fact. Not a form of investment advice. Please consult a professional registered to give you advice about your individual circumstance. This article is for educational purposes and entertainment purposes only. Please do not email the author about advice on investing or strategies on making investments.
About Christopher: Christopher Knight Lopez is a Professional Hustler turned International Best Seller and Published Author of “I Made It Then I Didn’t” and Co-Author with Kevin “The Shark” Harrington “Many Paths To Profit”. Christopher has opened over 7 businesses in his 15-year career. Christopher’s purpose is to take advantage of various market-driven opportunities. Christopher is a certified Master Project Manager (MPM), and Accredited Financial Analyst (AFA). Christopher previously held his Series 65 securities license examination and was a Master Financial Planner (MFP). Christopher also held his General Lines — Life, Accident, Health & HMO. Christopher has managed a combined 286mm USD in reported Assets Under Management & Assets Under Advisement. Christopher has work experience in 33 countries, raised over 50mm USD for various businesses, and grossed over 13.0mm in his personal career. Christopher worked in the highly technical industries of: biotechnology, finance, securities, manufacturing, real estate, and residential mortgages. Christopher is a United States Air Force Veteran. Christopher has a passion for family, competitive sports, fishing, martial arts and advocacy for entrepreneurs. Christopher provides self-help classes for up-and-coming entrepreneurs. Christopher’s passion to mentor comes from belief that entrepreneurs need guidance. The world is full of conflicting information about entrepreneur identity. See more at www.christopherklopez.com.
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